7 Ways to Instantly Escalate Conflict in Marriage

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7 Ways to Instantly Escalate Conflict
September 15, 2016
Written with love, by Karley Kiker

We’ve all read articles on how to avoid conflict, but does that mean our relationships are completely devoid of disagreements? I think you already know the answer to that question, but just in case, I’ll throw out a response for you. NO. At least in the case of my marriage, that is.

I’m capable of feeling tired. I’m capable of feeling hungry. I’m (definitely) capable of feeling hangry. And all of these states of being have been proven to contribute to the conflict-creating equation.

So if we can’t avoid conflict entirely, what can we do to help put out fires as quickly as possible? I’d give you a few ideas, but I think it would be a lot more fun if we took a look at this question from the opposite side of the coin. Let’s talk about…

7 WAYS TO INSTANTLY ESCALATE CONFLICT

1. Place all the blame on your opponent (ahem…spouse)

It’s pretty rare for one party to actually be 100% in the wrong, so to be on the safe side, just consider it an impossibility and own your part.

2. Walk away while the other person is still talking
7 Ways to Instantly Escalate Conflict
Some people need space in order to process things, calm down, and/or keep themselves from saying something they know they’ll regret 10 minutes later. But it’s still a good idea to set guidelines for taking a cool-off walk when you’re not in the middle of conflict. (i.e., “If we feel like we need to take a step back and clear our heads, we will verbally communicate that before excusing ourselves.”) Because from experience, pealing out for Whole Foods mid-argument is only a temporary high. And just because you cooled off while browsing the frozen produce aisle doesn’t mean he’s been doing the same at home.

3. Throw out a curse word (or four)

Letting a big one fly might feel like it’s helping you make your point in the moment, but what it’s really doing is taking your argument from innocuous to explosive in 10 seconds or less.

4. Use superlatives

“You always say…”

“You never do…”

You get the idea…

5. Go public

Raise your voice in a public place. Argue in front of your in-laws. Cause a general sense of discomfort and embarrassment. Whichever you choose, it will not go well for you.

6. Give your spouse the silent treatment

Guaranteed to cause enormous levels of frustration, especially if your spouse is a “talk it out” kind of person.

7. Bring up the past

Maybe it’s an old argument. Maybe it’s an old girlfriend. Either way, if the hatchet has been buried (and by “buried” I mean healthily resolved and previously forgiven), then by all means leave it there. If you want to cut your spouse to the core and cause a serious rift in your relationship, resurrect an indiscretion or stoke the fire of their shame. There’s almost nothing more painful than weaponizing the past and using it against the person we promised to love no matter what.

I’d close out this column by telling you that everything on this list should be classified as “do not try this at home,” but again…you already know. Let’s do a little experimenting with the opposite—acknowledging our part, hearing out our spouse, controlling our response, avoiding “always” and “never,” remaining in the present—and see how quickly we’re able to move from meltdown to make-up the next time conflict occurs.

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Services Offered
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Crafty Bridal Shower Idea-Set Up A Mimosa Bar

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Smarty Had A Party nails it with this crafty bridal shower idea!

Set up a Mimosa Bar!

Whether you are hosting an engagement party, bridal brunch, or a bachelorette weekend, setting up a mimosa bar is simple.  Start with champagne in a bucket of ice, carafes of juice and add bowls of fresh fruit. Don’t just stick with orange juice.  Try pineapple, grapefruit, cran-raspberry, blackberry and mango passion fruit.

It’s sure to be a hit! Cheers🍾

 

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8 Excitng Bridal Shower Games Your Guests Will Love

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We found this great article on Inside Weddings and had to share!
From classics like The Newlywed Game to purse raids, get ideas for your wedding shower.

Bridal showers offer an opportunity for friends and family to celebrate the bride-to-be and “shower” her with gifts or advice. While the bride will certainly know everyone in attendance, her guests may not know each other – and nothing bonds guests quite like a common love for the bride, as well as fun bridal shower games and activities.

Fortunately, there are several bridal shower games that will start the party and encourage loved ones to engage with one another. Despite the different types of personalities in your group of guests, the following games and activities will keep attendees laughing with each other throughout the event.

Consider adding some of the bridal shower games, below, to the schedule of the day in order to plan a fun bridal shower that will be enjoyed by guests of all ages.

1. Funny Notes or Advice on Jenga Blocks
Jenga game at bridal shower
Encourage guests to leave wedding advice or funny notes on Jenga blocks. The bride and her beloved will enjoy reading the messages later and will be delightfully surprised when discovering what each guest wrote.

2. The Ring Pop Game
Bridal shower ring pop game
Ask your guests to wear one Ring Pop at the beginning of the event, and let them know to refrain from saying “bride” or “wedding” throughout the day. If a guest says one of those two keywords, the person who heard it first should take the ring from the guest who broke the rule. At the end of the shower, the person with the most rings wins a prize… and several Ring Pops!

3. Bridal Shower Trivia
Bridal shower trivia game card
Create a quiz including questions recalling anecdotes or characteristics of the bride-to-be or couple. Bridal shower attendees can circle their answers as the bride reads the questions aloud. The guest who answers the most questions correctly will win a prize.

4. Advice Cards
Advice card bridal shower activity
Provide guests with themed advice cards, so they can share wise and loving words with the bride-to-be. Guests will enjoy the chance to offer some words of wisdom and appreciate your interest in learning what they have to say.

5. The Purse Raid
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Create a list of items one may have in their purse, such as bobby pins, blush, or even risqué items, if you wish. At the bridal shower, the host will announce the items on the list one by one and will give a prize to the guest who pulls the corresponding item out of their purse first. Not only will it be fun competing with each other, but it will be interesting to see what everyone carries in their bags.

6. Photobooth Fun
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Provide a pretty backdrop for a group photo, which will make everyone feel included on the occasion.

Photo booth props on sticks
Make the event memorable by providing guests with themed props to use while taking photos at a photo booth. A variety of props will encourage guests to trade and interact with each other while posing for the camera.

7. “Don’t Say Bride” Drinking Game
Make it a rule that guests should take a sip of their beverage every time they say, “bride.” This game will keep guests attentive and engaged throughout the event. Provide alcoholic beverages such Champagne or signature cocktails for guests who would like to drink, and offer some non-alcoholic options as well. Cheers!
8. The Newlywed Game

Have a friend gather a list of relationship-centered questions, such as “What is your fiancé’s guilty pleasure?” and “Who takes longer to get ready?” Ask the host to interview and note your fiancé’s responses before the event. At the wedding shower, the bride-to-be will be interviewed in the hot seat and guests will compare the couple’s answers. Ask guests to take their stab at the questions for some added fun!

Authored by: Lynette Haro

 

 

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Pamper Perfect Mobile Spa-The Latest Baby Shower Trend!! Pamper The Mommy

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Have you even been invited to a baby shower or even have to plan one and just DREAD the thought of the same ole baby shower shing ding?  We know were going to have to clip bows and make a silly hat, eat baby food and guess what it is, look at a diaper that seems to be filled with poo and try to figure out the candy (uhhhh kinda gross) and tear off toilet paper that we think will fit around the belly of the mom to be (as if she isn’t already conscious she cant see her toes) all in the name of love and congrats on the new bundle of joy!!  Sounds exciting right?  Well what if I told you that the latest trend sweeping baby showers (or baby sprinkles) was the idea of Pamper The Mommy!  Yes! Pamper Perfect comes in and uses all of the mommy-to-be’s favorite things and puts together a complete pamper package!
We take all the pressure off the planner and mom gets to relax while we bring the dayspa to her doorstep.
With custom invites, colors, decor, signature services (like sweet pea pedis and mamma needs a mani’s) signature drinks (virgin of course), baby cupcakes, fun word searches and spa party games, you will be the envy of all the other moms to be on the block when you host your very own Pamper Mommy Spa Party.
She’d want nothing more than to have a pre-natal massage, someone to rub on her swollen ankles and enjoy her gal pals for the day! Trust me….plus she deserves it!

Please repost and share so other mommy’s- t-o be can enjoy the Pamper Perfect Experience .

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❤Pirgin~ Pork Roast ~& ~Perfect Party Hostess

When everyone else was having Mother’s Day Brunch, Pamper Perfect Mobile Spa was on the scene creating the Perfect Experience for a lovely group of ladies not only celebrating Mothers Day, but a very special birthday.  Jenn wanted to treat her mother-in-law Vicki, two sister-in laws Vicki and Jen, and her niece Gianna, to a relaxing spa day.  This was one of our faves this past week! We laughed together, cried together and were honored to celebrate with them. “If you don’t want to do them thats fine….I’ve never done this before”, MIL Vicki expressed quietly before we got started.  She had never had a Pedi…what we call a Pirgin! or Pedicure Virgin.  Well needless to say by the time we were done she was sitting back relaxing, agreed to a bright ‘Tropix’ Vinylux mani and sipped her cocktail amazed at how quickly her nails dried. “I have new feet!” she said with smiles. Jenn’s husband Matt was ever so attentive to his leading ladies, hustling in and out to serve and to give updates on his pork roast recipe.  We had the ladies done just in time for dinner!  Jenn was an amazing Pamper Perfect Hostess with everything just right.  She creatively had all the components to have a great party.  With a few drinks, scrumptious appetizers, party decor, fresh flowers and gifts for her guests, WE couldn’t have done it without her. Even the boys wanted pedis! 

Please like and share our post with family, followers and friends and especially any Pirgins you know! We would love to be their first in the comfort of their own home or location.

 

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Non Traditional Manis

This weekend I had the pleasure of providing a bride spa package for a very deserving young lady!! Casey was the most laid back bride I’ve met in quite sometime. I visited her suite at Hotel Palomar in center city Philadelphia!  She knew exactly what she wanted. A celebrity inspired gold tip mani. “Like a French but with gold instead of white!”  What a bride wants a bride gets!! She sipped champagne while being treated to a Perfect Mani Pedi. Her bride package came with her dress @lovelybride.  Who says you have to go with a traditional French Manicure for your wedding?  Be unique, be inspired, be perfect for you….whatever that may be.  Please share with brides to be contemplating nail color and seeking the Perfect wedding manicure! 

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Pedis Are Not Optional!

I recently completed a bride consultation gathering information to decide on the best spa party options!

“I don’t really need a pedi, my shoes are not open toe.”

No way! I reply.  Its a must.  Pedis aren’t optional

Despite what many people may feel, pedis are more than just a fu fu frilly spa treatment for the elite! They are more than just pretty polish and a nail trim.  They are proper foot care. Its amazing how we spend our beauty dollars on make up, fitness regimens and even nail care, however our feet carry the total weight of our body for our ENTIRE LIFE, and it still is last on the list OR considered only during the summer during open toe season!

So do yourself a favor and treat yourself all year round to a proper pedi. every 6-8 weeks in the Fall and Winter and every 2-4 weeks in the Spring and Summer. Your feet will thank you! Better yet host a pedi party and your service is FREE!

Please share with all your gal pals (and men friends).  Their feet need love too!

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