7 Ways to Instantly Escalate Conflict in Marriage

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7 Ways to Instantly Escalate Conflict
September 15, 2016
Written with love, by Karley Kiker

We’ve all read articles on how to avoid conflict, but does that mean our relationships are completely devoid of disagreements? I think you already know the answer to that question, but just in case, I’ll throw out a response for you. NO. At least in the case of my marriage, that is.

I’m capable of feeling tired. I’m capable of feeling hungry. I’m (definitely) capable of feeling hangry. And all of these states of being have been proven to contribute to the conflict-creating equation.

So if we can’t avoid conflict entirely, what can we do to help put out fires as quickly as possible? I’d give you a few ideas, but I think it would be a lot more fun if we took a look at this question from the opposite side of the coin. Let’s talk about…

7 WAYS TO INSTANTLY ESCALATE CONFLICT

1. Place all the blame on your opponent (ahem…spouse)

It’s pretty rare for one party to actually be 100% in the wrong, so to be on the safe side, just consider it an impossibility and own your part.

2. Walk away while the other person is still talking
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Some people need space in order to process things, calm down, and/or keep themselves from saying something they know they’ll regret 10 minutes later. But it’s still a good idea to set guidelines for taking a cool-off walk when you’re not in the middle of conflict. (i.e., “If we feel like we need to take a step back and clear our heads, we will verbally communicate that before excusing ourselves.”) Because from experience, pealing out for Whole Foods mid-argument is only a temporary high. And just because you cooled off while browsing the frozen produce aisle doesn’t mean he’s been doing the same at home.

3. Throw out a curse word (or four)

Letting a big one fly might feel like it’s helping you make your point in the moment, but what it’s really doing is taking your argument from innocuous to explosive in 10 seconds or less.

4. Use superlatives

“You always say…”

“You never do…”

You get the idea…

5. Go public

Raise your voice in a public place. Argue in front of your in-laws. Cause a general sense of discomfort and embarrassment. Whichever you choose, it will not go well for you.

6. Give your spouse the silent treatment

Guaranteed to cause enormous levels of frustration, especially if your spouse is a “talk it out” kind of person.

7. Bring up the past

Maybe it’s an old argument. Maybe it’s an old girlfriend. Either way, if the hatchet has been buried (and by “buried” I mean healthily resolved and previously forgiven), then by all means leave it there. If you want to cut your spouse to the core and cause a serious rift in your relationship, resurrect an indiscretion or stoke the fire of their shame. There’s almost nothing more painful than weaponizing the past and using it against the person we promised to love no matter what.

I’d close out this column by telling you that everything on this list should be classified as “do not try this at home,” but again…you already know. Let’s do a little experimenting with the opposite—acknowledging our part, hearing out our spouse, controlling our response, avoiding “always” and “never,” remaining in the present—and see how quickly we’re able to move from meltdown to make-up the next time conflict occurs.

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Mobile spa companies offer on-site beauty and relaxation treatments that can be given to an individual or a large group. Often, this company will be utilized to enhance an event by offering guests an opportunity to engage in a beauty treatment on the spot. Although the services offered by the company may differ, they generally offer a variety of services that include massage, manicures and makeup application. In today’s fast-paced workplace and hectic social world, a mobile spa is a welcome source of entertainment at a variety of events that can offer significant benefits to corporate and personal event planners.

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Services Offered
There are many types of services that are offered. However, facials and massage are the most popular services requested. This is due to the large amount of people who can benefit from the relaxation and pain relief that a treatment can offer. When a person hires a mobile spa for their event, they receive a versatile service that can be tailored to any type of occasion. For example, a mobile spa can create a romantic atmosphere for a couples massage or they can offer employees an outdoor package within a casual environment.

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Crafty Bridal Shower Idea-Set Up A Mimosa Bar

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Smarty Had A Party nails it with this crafty bridal shower idea!

Set up a Mimosa Bar!

Whether you are hosting an engagement party, bridal brunch, or a bachelorette weekend, setting up a mimosa bar is simple.  Start with champagne in a bucket of ice, carafes of juice and add bowls of fresh fruit. Don’t just stick with orange juice.  Try pineapple, grapefruit, cran-raspberry, blackberry and mango passion fruit.

It’s sure to be a hit! Cheers🍾

 

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8 Excitng Bridal Shower Games Your Guests Will Love

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We found this great article on Inside Weddings and had to share!
From classics like The Newlywed Game to purse raids, get ideas for your wedding shower.

Bridal showers offer an opportunity for friends and family to celebrate the bride-to-be and “shower” her with gifts or advice. While the bride will certainly know everyone in attendance, her guests may not know each other – and nothing bonds guests quite like a common love for the bride, as well as fun bridal shower games and activities.

Fortunately, there are several bridal shower games that will start the party and encourage loved ones to engage with one another. Despite the different types of personalities in your group of guests, the following games and activities will keep attendees laughing with each other throughout the event.

Consider adding some of the bridal shower games, below, to the schedule of the day in order to plan a fun bridal shower that will be enjoyed by guests of all ages.

1. Funny Notes or Advice on Jenga Blocks
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Encourage guests to leave wedding advice or funny notes on Jenga blocks. The bride and her beloved will enjoy reading the messages later and will be delightfully surprised when discovering what each guest wrote.

2. The Ring Pop Game
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Ask your guests to wear one Ring Pop at the beginning of the event, and let them know to refrain from saying “bride” or “wedding” throughout the day. If a guest says one of those two keywords, the person who heard it first should take the ring from the guest who broke the rule. At the end of the shower, the person with the most rings wins a prize… and several Ring Pops!

3. Bridal Shower Trivia
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Create a quiz including questions recalling anecdotes or characteristics of the bride-to-be or couple. Bridal shower attendees can circle their answers as the bride reads the questions aloud. The guest who answers the most questions correctly will win a prize.

4. Advice Cards
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Provide guests with themed advice cards, so they can share wise and loving words with the bride-to-be. Guests will enjoy the chance to offer some words of wisdom and appreciate your interest in learning what they have to say.

5. The Purse Raid
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Create a list of items one may have in their purse, such as bobby pins, blush, or even risqué items, if you wish. At the bridal shower, the host will announce the items on the list one by one and will give a prize to the guest who pulls the corresponding item out of their purse first. Not only will it be fun competing with each other, but it will be interesting to see what everyone carries in their bags.

6. Photobooth Fun
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Provide a pretty backdrop for a group photo, which will make everyone feel included on the occasion.

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Make the event memorable by providing guests with themed props to use while taking photos at a photo booth. A variety of props will encourage guests to trade and interact with each other while posing for the camera.

7. “Don’t Say Bride” Drinking Game
Make it a rule that guests should take a sip of their beverage every time they say, “bride.” This game will keep guests attentive and engaged throughout the event. Provide alcoholic beverages such Champagne or signature cocktails for guests who would like to drink, and offer some non-alcoholic options as well. Cheers!
8. The Newlywed Game

Have a friend gather a list of relationship-centered questions, such as “What is your fiancé’s guilty pleasure?” and “Who takes longer to get ready?” Ask the host to interview and note your fiancé’s responses before the event. At the wedding shower, the bride-to-be will be interviewed in the hot seat and guests will compare the couple’s answers. Ask guests to take their stab at the questions for some added fun!

Authored by: Lynette Haro

 

 

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2015 Mani Cams…..And The Winner IS!

The Oscars had NO mani Cam this year. I’m suspecting it had something to do with this year’s Screen Actors Guild Awards when Julianne Moore, Reese Witherspoon and Jennifer Aniston made headlines, of a sort, by taking the revolutionary step of refusing to stick their paws in E!’s Mani Cam or maybe because Jena Malone stuck her tongue out at it and Elisabeth Moss gave it the finger.  Baaaa humbug!  It still doesn’t stop the idea of the red carpet is like a beauty contest and nails are no exception to the viewers. Just like you we were keeping an eye out for the nails as a part of the  fashion and beauty trends.  The results are in and the winner is…….light nails and underside colors were what stars preferred at the Oscars! These were some of Pamper Perfects favorites!

Jennifer Lopez~A nude, elongated nail with rose-gold under the free edge to compliment the warm, beachy tones in her Elie Saab beaded gown.

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Emma Stone~A light-peach, semi-opaque nail perfectly flows with her warm complexion and light-green gown.

Stone (L) pictured with Julianne Moore (R)

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Lady Gaga~Even under those red gloves, I knew she had a perfect mani! Glad we got to see them (and more Alaïa!) as the night went on.

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Kerry Washington~The flash of pinky-champagne lacquer reflected against her white gown beautifully.

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Lupita Nyong’o~A champagne pearl nail with a Swarovski crystal on the flip side of each nail perfectly combines with her hand-sewn Calvin Klein pearl gown.

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So!  Who were your faves?  Are you going to try a nude for old mani cam sake?

Allison

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Girls Birthday Party Ideas For Winter

It’s getting chilly out and the weather reports that this week the temperature will drop drastically from an autumn chill to winter like. Were starting to get reservations from our clients with little girls.  “Her birthday is in the winter and we were looking for something neat to do!”  If your little girl has a birthday in winter, you can’t let the weather ruin your fun! Pamper Perfect Mobile Spa is the perfect solution for your next winter birthday party. Invite pals over for an afternoon of pampering and fun, complete with fabulous feel-good treatments and glam goodies!  Even if its cold outside, you don’t have to travel. We can deliver manis, pedis, facials, glitter tattoos, signature drinks, pizza,  cupcakes and even a fab spa gift bag right to your doorstep! Book your Pamper Perfect Princess Party Today! Please share with others who may be struggling with winter birthday party ideas.

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Face & Wine Taste~Pamper Perfect Mobile Spa Celebrates Breast Cancer Awareness Month

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October brings out the pink to celebrate surviving, encouraging others on their journey and bring awareness to Breast Cancer. Pamper Perfect Mobile Spa gets to celebrate with women all year round for birthday party celebrations, shellac nails,  bachelorette party games, bridal shower themes, nail spa events, beach weddings, and baby shower ideas. This month we want to help you celebrate surviving with your family and gal pals with sipping, noshing, connecting and having fun.  Host a Face and Wine Taste! Enjoy a  Red Wine Hydra-Gel Facial Masque!

What is a Red Wine Hydra-Gel Facial Masque? It is a PINK gel mask and not only feels good, but it will help you fight off free-radicals and damaged caused by sun, smoking or stress.

Will it feel like I drank wine? No, it will not replace the mood enhancing benefits of a nice glass of Bordeaux but the Resveratrol t and other anti-oxidant ingredients in this masque will do wonders for your skin!

Is it for my skin type? The mask is for all skin types. Ideal as a first line of defense against skin exposed to free radicals and environmental damage.

The fun doesn’t stop there!  You get to swirl, sniff and sip with the best of them. Raise your glass to surviving and thriving! Taste a variety of wines, play party games, win great prizes and  you will love some of the special touches Pamper Perfect Mobile Spa brings to your doorstep for the Perfect Experience.

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Pamper Perfect Mobile Spa-The Latest Baby Shower Trend!! Pamper The Mommy

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Have you even been invited to a baby shower or even have to plan one and just DREAD the thought of the same ole baby shower shing ding?  We know were going to have to clip bows and make a silly hat, eat baby food and guess what it is, look at a diaper that seems to be filled with poo and try to figure out the candy (uhhhh kinda gross) and tear off toilet paper that we think will fit around the belly of the mom to be (as if she isn’t already conscious she cant see her toes) all in the name of love and congrats on the new bundle of joy!!  Sounds exciting right?  Well what if I told you that the latest trend sweeping baby showers (or baby sprinkles) was the idea of Pamper The Mommy!  Yes! Pamper Perfect comes in and uses all of the mommy-to-be’s favorite things and puts together a complete pamper package!
We take all the pressure off the planner and mom gets to relax while we bring the dayspa to her doorstep.
With custom invites, colors, decor, signature services (like sweet pea pedis and mamma needs a mani’s) signature drinks (virgin of course), baby cupcakes, fun word searches and spa party games, you will be the envy of all the other moms to be on the block when you host your very own Pamper Mommy Spa Party.
She’d want nothing more than to have a pre-natal massage, someone to rub on her swollen ankles and enjoy her gal pals for the day! Trust me….plus she deserves it!

Please repost and share so other mommy’s- t-o be can enjoy the Pamper Perfect Experience .

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