7 Ways to Instantly Escalate Conflict in Marriage

imageI loved this so much on http://www.theoverwhelmedbride.com I had to share ❤️

7 Ways to Instantly Escalate Conflict
September 15, 2016
Written with love, by Karley Kiker

We’ve all read articles on how to avoid conflict, but does that mean our relationships are completely devoid of disagreements? I think you already know the answer to that question, but just in case, I’ll throw out a response for you. NO. At least in the case of my marriage, that is.

I’m capable of feeling tired. I’m capable of feeling hungry. I’m (definitely) capable of feeling hangry. And all of these states of being have been proven to contribute to the conflict-creating equation.

So if we can’t avoid conflict entirely, what can we do to help put out fires as quickly as possible? I’d give you a few ideas, but I think it would be a lot more fun if we took a look at this question from the opposite side of the coin. Let’s talk about…


1. Place all the blame on your opponent (ahem…spouse)

It’s pretty rare for one party to actually be 100% in the wrong, so to be on the safe side, just consider it an impossibility and own your part.

2. Walk away while the other person is still talking
7 Ways to Instantly Escalate Conflict
Some people need space in order to process things, calm down, and/or keep themselves from saying something they know they’ll regret 10 minutes later. But it’s still a good idea to set guidelines for taking a cool-off walk when you’re not in the middle of conflict. (i.e., “If we feel like we need to take a step back and clear our heads, we will verbally communicate that before excusing ourselves.”) Because from experience, pealing out for Whole Foods mid-argument is only a temporary high. And just because you cooled off while browsing the frozen produce aisle doesn’t mean he’s been doing the same at home.

3. Throw out a curse word (or four)

Letting a big one fly might feel like it’s helping you make your point in the moment, but what it’s really doing is taking your argument from innocuous to explosive in 10 seconds or less.

4. Use superlatives

“You always say…”

“You never do…”

You get the idea…

5. Go public

Raise your voice in a public place. Argue in front of your in-laws. Cause a general sense of discomfort and embarrassment. Whichever you choose, it will not go well for you.

6. Give your spouse the silent treatment

Guaranteed to cause enormous levels of frustration, especially if your spouse is a “talk it out” kind of person.

7. Bring up the past

Maybe it’s an old argument. Maybe it’s an old girlfriend. Either way, if the hatchet has been buried (and by “buried” I mean healthily resolved and previously forgiven), then by all means leave it there. If you want to cut your spouse to the core and cause a serious rift in your relationship, resurrect an indiscretion or stoke the fire of their shame. There’s almost nothing more painful than weaponizing the past and using it against the person we promised to love no matter what.

I’d close out this column by telling you that everything on this list should be classified as “do not try this at home,” but again…you already know. Let’s do a little experimenting with the opposite—acknowledging our part, hearing out our spouse, controlling our response, avoiding “always” and “never,” remaining in the present—and see how quickly we’re able to move from meltdown to make-up the next time conflict occurs.

Benefits of Hiring Pamper Perfect Mobile Spa

Mobile spa companies offer on-site beauty and relaxation treatments that can be given to an individual or a large group. Often, this company will be utilized to enhance an event by offering guests an opportunity to engage in a beauty treatment on the spot. Although the services offered by the company may differ, they generally offer a variety of services that include massage, manicures and makeup application. In today’s fast-paced workplace and hectic social world, a mobile spa is a welcome source of entertainment at a variety of events that can offer significant benefits to corporate and personal event planners.

Events that Benefit
Pamper Perfect Mobile Spa can be utilized to add an interesting element to any event. Large companies are now beginning to hire mobile spa companies to offer their employees a way to relax in order to increase creativity and production. Smaller companies, such as schools and city services, are beginning to hire a mobile spa company to provide a way to show appreciation to their employees for special events. Smaller events, such as weddings and birthdays, are also a great reason to hire a mobile spa company so that each guest can feel honored to be a part of the special day. For weddings, many brides choose to use a mobile spa to help their wedding party get dressed for the big event.

Services Offered
There are many types of services that are offered. However, facials and massage are the most popular services requested. This is due to the large amount of people who can benefit from the relaxation and pain relief that a treatment can offer. When a person hires a mobile spa for their event, they receive a versatile service that can be tailored to any type of occasion. For example, a mobile spa can create a romantic atmosphere for a couples massage or they can offer employees an outdoor package within a casual environment.

Public Appreciation
When a person chooses to hire a spa for their event, they are able to show their guests that they are appreciated. For this reason, spas are utilized by companies who would like to recognize their employees by providing them with a relaxing incentive. Additionally, mobile spas can be used for bachelorette parties, reunions and other gatherings where a person wants to pamper their guests and make them feel special. When it comes to showing appreciation, there are few better ways than to offer a person a relaxing retreat that provides instant gratification.

Generate Social Media Interest
Any event that has a mobile spa is sure to generate a great deal of social media interest as guests post photos of their spa treatments. This is most beneficial for companies who can maximize their exposure through authentic posts created by satisfied employees and other guests. Because everyone will love to brag about their massage, a brand will receive exposure through each person’s social media page.
The benefits of hiring Pamper Perfect Mobile Spa for an event go much further than one simple beauty treatment. As guests begin to relax, the event will also benefit from a conversational atmosphere that can lead to many wonderful memories. In addition to relaxing, each guest will feel pampered and will generate a positive response that can make any event stand out from the rest. Visit our website at http://www.pamperpeerfectmobilespa.com or call 866-947-9994 to book your Pamper Perfect Experience.

Crafty Bridal Shower Idea-Set Up A Mimosa Bar


Smarty Had A Party nails it with this crafty bridal shower idea!

Set up a Mimosa Bar!

Whether you are hosting an engagement party, bridal brunch, or a bachelorette weekend, setting up a mimosa bar is simple.  Start with champagne in a bucket of ice, carafes of juice and add bowls of fresh fruit. Don’t just stick with orange juice.  Try pineapple, grapefruit, cran-raspberry, blackberry and mango passion fruit.

It’s sure to be a hit! Cheers🍾








8 Excitng Bridal Shower Games Your Guests Will Love

EDLT Photo | http://edlt.photo | #edltphoto |

EDLT Photo 

We found this great article on Inside Weddings and had to share!
From classics like The Newlywed Game to purse raids, get ideas for your wedding shower.

Bridal showers offer an opportunity for friends and family to celebrate the bride-to-be and “shower” her with gifts or advice. While the bride will certainly know everyone in attendance, her guests may not know each other – and nothing bonds guests quite like a common love for the bride, as well as fun bridal shower games and activities.

Fortunately, there are several bridal shower games that will start the party and encourage loved ones to engage with one another. Despite the different types of personalities in your group of guests, the following games and activities will keep attendees laughing with each other throughout the event.

Consider adding some of the bridal shower games, below, to the schedule of the day in order to plan a fun bridal shower that will be enjoyed by guests of all ages.

1. Funny Notes or Advice on Jenga Blocks
Jenga game at bridal shower
Encourage guests to leave wedding advice or funny notes on Jenga blocks. The bride and her beloved will enjoy reading the messages later and will be delightfully surprised when discovering what each guest wrote.

2. The Ring Pop Game
Bridal shower ring pop game
Ask your guests to wear one Ring Pop at the beginning of the event, and let them know to refrain from saying “bride” or “wedding” throughout the day. If a guest says one of those two keywords, the person who heard it first should take the ring from the guest who broke the rule. At the end of the shower, the person with the most rings wins a prize… and several Ring Pops!

3. Bridal Shower Trivia
Bridal shower trivia game card
Create a quiz including questions recalling anecdotes or characteristics of the bride-to-be or couple. Bridal shower attendees can circle their answers as the bride reads the questions aloud. The guest who answers the most questions correctly will win a prize.

4. Advice Cards
Advice card bridal shower activity
Provide guests with themed advice cards, so they can share wise and loving words with the bride-to-be. Guests will enjoy the chance to offer some words of wisdom and appreciate your interest in learning what they have to say.

5. The Purse Raid
Gold YSL wedding clutch on table
Create a list of items one may have in their purse, such as bobby pins, blush, or even risqué items, if you wish. At the bridal shower, the host will announce the items on the list one by one and will give a prize to the guest who pulls the corresponding item out of their purse first. Not only will it be fun competing with each other, but it will be interesting to see what everyone carries in their bags.

6. Photobooth Fun
Black and white stripe photo booth background
Provide a pretty backdrop for a group photo, which will make everyone feel included on the occasion.

Photo booth props on sticks
Make the event memorable by providing guests with themed props to use while taking photos at a photo booth. A variety of props will encourage guests to trade and interact with each other while posing for the camera.

7. “Don’t Say Bride” Drinking Game
Make it a rule that guests should take a sip of their beverage every time they say, “bride.” This game will keep guests attentive and engaged throughout the event. Provide alcoholic beverages such Champagne or signature cocktails for guests who would like to drink, and offer some non-alcoholic options as well. Cheers!
8. The Newlywed Game

Have a friend gather a list of relationship-centered questions, such as “What is your fiancé’s guilty pleasure?” and “Who takes longer to get ready?” Ask the host to interview and note your fiancé’s responses before the event. At the wedding shower, the bride-to-be will be interviewed in the hot seat and guests will compare the couple’s answers. Ask guests to take their stab at the questions for some added fun!

Authored by: Lynette Haro



Manis & Martinis For A Cause



Share with your girlfriends and host your very own girls nite! Only 10 Pamper Perfect reservations being accepted. Offer includes 4 onsite Shellac Manicures and Martinis (can be mocktails) DE Tri State Area only 💅🏼💅🏼❤️
E-mail for booking!! Reservations@pamperperfectmobilespa.com



Office Holiday Party Your Employees Want To Attend


Holiday Party

Cinnamon and Honey Green Tea Smoothie Recipe


Cinnamon for your brain, honey for your allergies,
and green tea for just about everything else!🙂

Preparing your own smoothie is an easy option for replacing a meal. In a few minutes, you can have a complete meal, full of beneficial nutrients. There are thousands of smoothie recipes that you can use with a Vitamix blender, which can make it difficult to find the exact recipe you are looking for.

If you are trying to find a morning meal replacement, then you will enjoy this cinnamon and honey green tea smoothie recipe.

The caffeine and antioxidants found in the green tea will provide you with your morning energy, while the honey will help to regulate your blood sugar levels. This will keep you on track and focused throughout the day, without leaving you with a sugar craving in the middle of the afternoon.

Before making this recipe, it should be noted that it requires fresh green tea. Brew a single cup of green tea before preparing your smoothie, using one or two green tea bags. You will require a half-cup of green tea to make the cinnamon and honey green tea smoothie. Pour the half-cup of green tea into a small airtight container and place in your fridge.

Cinnamon and Honey Green Tea Smoothie Ingredients

Along with the green tea, you will need a few additional ingredients. In addition to everything listed below, you can also add your choice of fresh, leafy greens, such as spinach or kale; though, this is not a requirement. Here are the basic ingredients for the cinnamon and honey green tea smoothie:

½ a cup of green tea
½ a banana (frozen)
½ a cup of almond milk (can be replaced with coconut milk or soymilk)
1 tablespoon of raw honey
1 teaspoon of cinnamon
Cinnamon and Honey Green Tea Smoothie Directions

Add all of the ingredients to your Vitamix blender, starting with the green tea, then the milk, followed by the produce, honey, and cinnamon. Some people also prefer to add ice. If you choose to add ice, blend the ingredients for a minute, then add the ice and blend for another minute.

Blend the ingredients until smooth and then serve. This should make one large serving of the cinnamon and honey green tea smoothie.

Raw honey is a vital ingredient in this recipe. It contains an abundance of beneficial vitamins and minerals, while giving it the sweetness that would usually come from sugar. Among the ingredients found in raw honey, you will receive a healthy dose of vitamins B1, B2, B3, B5, B6, and vitamin C, as well as minerals – iron, copper, calcium, chlorine, potassium, magnesium, zinc, and manganese.

This combination of nutrients will boost your energy, provide you with antioxidants, and support the development of healthy bacteria in your gut, while also preventing the growth of harmful bacteria or fungi.

A green tea smoothie is intended to cleanse your body and build up your immune system. This makes the cinnamon and honey green tea smoothie the perfect meal replacement for the cold or flu season. If you want to protect your body from the cold or flu, boost your metabolism, and improve your health, try drinking a cinnamon and honey green tea smoothie several times per week.

Thank you http://www.prolineorganic.com/cinnamon-and-honey-green-tea-smoothie-recipe/

Pamper Perfect Mobile Spa-Pumpkin Spice IN Everything Nice

pumpkin spice pedi

The pumpkin season is officially here! Pumpkin is in drinks and products everywhere!! From the pumpkin spice latte at Starbucks, the pumpkin pie donut at Dunkin Donuts, Nabisco has a pumpkin spice Oreo and I’ve even seen pumpkin spice M & M’s for goodness sakes.  Pamper Perfect decided to jump on the Pumpkin boat and create a sweet and yummy treat, without any calories! The Pumpkin Spice Ice Cream Pedicure will begin with a scrumptious foot soak in a few scoops of Choco-holic Bath Ice Cream.  Allow the blend of essential oils, minerals, and fragrances to soften your feet.  After you soak, it’s time to cleanse and exfoliate with the Pumpkin Spice Scrub which will leave your skin silky smooth.  Next we treat your feet to a creamy Pumpkin Spice foot mask to stimulate and firm the skin, dipping the your feet into a warm pumpkin spice paraffin bath.  Before the final cherry on top of the nail polish, the body butter in luscious Pumpkin Spice is added for extra moisturizing and relaxing massage.  Wait!  That’s not all! This pedicure is served with  Pumpkin Pie Martinis!

Book your Pamper Perfect Pumpkin Experience Today!

Book a Pumpkin Pedi Party and Receive Complimentary Manis (Limited Time Only)

Pamper Perfect Mobile Spa Pumpkin Martini

Pamper Perfect Mobile Spa Pumpkin Martini

pumpkin oreopamper perfect mobile spa pumpkin pedi

pamper perfect mobile spa pumpkin-pie-sugar-scrub-

10 Gifts That Your Bridesmaids Won’t Hate

1. Satin Robe with Monogram
I’m a huge fan of robes! They’re just super nice to have for getting ready! And so why not gift a robe to your besties that they can wear to get ready in on the wedding day and beyond?

2. Colorful Wristlet
Wristlets are nice because it’s always nice when you are looking to travel light – and simply pack a little money, your credit cards and your ID.

3. Cute Desk Accessories
I don’t know about you, but I’m a huge fan of cutesy desk accessories. And that’s why I think that a set like this is a great and unexpected gift idea!

4. Monogrammed Mugs
How cute are these golden monogram mugs? I’m so in love with these. And your bridesmaids are sure to be too!

5. Pretty Eye Palette
Pretty eye shadow palettes always make great gifts! Especially when they come filled with pretty neutrals like this!

6. Spa Candle
Beautifully scented candles are always a lovely gift idea. And I’m loving The gilded ones!

7. Best Friend Necklace!
A cute best friend necklace is a darling keepsake that will surely be appreciated. Because you’re never too old to have a BFF!

8. Spa Day!
Spa days are the best! And so a really fun bridesmaid gift is surely a Pamper Perfect Experience with an onsite spa party. It is the Perrrrrrrrfect gift! And if you want to sweeten the situation, why not put together a spa swag bag and luncheon ❤️ http://www.pamperperfectmobilespa.com

9. Sweet Studs!
Simple stud earrings are always a nice gift idea. And these ones from kate spade are on the top of my “it” list for gifts.

10. Striped Tote
A tote is a girl’s best friend! Take it to the beach, take it shopping, take it on vacation…. No matter what, every girl needs a nice tote in her life!
So there you have it! 10 gifts that any bridesmaid would probably love to receive! And so if you found this article helpful, be sure to share!

Perfectly Yours,


Perfect Mani Pedi Pairings


One of the most frequently asked questions we hear at our Pamper Perfect Spa Parties is “Do my nails and toes have to match?”

With summer pedis being in full swing ladies would like to know the mani pedi code of conduct so here it is!  You don’t have to match!! It’s quite trendy and fashionable to mix and match your polish hues and dare to be different.

I came across a fabulous article by Laura Conrad who shared some perfect Mani Pedi pairings I had to pass along! So at your next appointment mix it up and try one of these fab combos!

Perfectly Yours,